What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God.
I admit, I don’t totally connect with these verses. To me, they sound as if they were directed at a bunch of angry, disgruntled men. I hope that does not offend anyone, but I think in general, women are more often angered by being personally (emotionally) injured than they are angered by not getting what they want. In any case, when I am angry, looking to God and asking for peace is what usually leads to change. Asking God for peace seems to move things forward, out of the murkiness and into a better perspective.
Holy Lord, you do not want us to be filled with anger. You want us to be filled with your Spirit, peaceful and content with our blessings. I will strive for this. Amen